To Read on the Journey

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

"The Talk" (Day 10)

For 31 days I am writing to my children
my future grandchildren, great, and all my great-grandchildren.

"Before you get married 
Satan is going to try to get you to have sex.  
After you get married
 Satan is going to try to get you to not have sex."

You, and you and your spouse will have to fight hard, together, against both.

Before you are married the deceiver, Satan, brings out some big guns to arouse your curiosity.  He's intent on shooting you down in your endeavor to "wait."

 There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact.  As written in Scripture, “The two become one.”  Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works.  
So let people see God in and through your body.
1 Corinthians 6: 16-20 
The Message 

The intimate unity of "becoming one" with each other in Christ is exactly what Satan wants to obliterate.  The deceiver is fierce and makes self-control difficult,
but I promise you,

On the flip-side these big guns don't even begin to scratch the surface of the heavy artillery the liar will bring out once the honeymoon is over.  He'll use anything he can get his grimy hands on to thwart your marriage.

"Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy 
between wife and husband. 
God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex."
Hebrew 13:4
The Message 
Photo taken on the spot where we were engaged, for our 15th Anniversary. 

Here are some weapons that will help you to crush Satan in his efforts.

Be intimate with God.  Be in His word and in prayer. Listen to the Spirit's direction, and choose obedience, knowing God is madly-in-love with you (and with your love), and has blessing and goodness for you.    
Be protective and proactive- by being mindful of what you allow to fill your minds, and cautious to not allow images or ideas of "sex" to mislead you. 
Don't allow yourself to become desensitized by media, internet, music, individuals, AND your own self-serving or entitled desires. 
Be wise in how you spend your time with the opposite sex (before marriage with the person you are courting, and after marriage with the opposite sex).
Find a godly couple that cares for you, and your spiritual and physical relationship, to mentor you (while you are engaged and when you are married).  Be vulnerable and allow them to hold you accountable to the commitment you have made to God and to each other. 

Live in Peace, 
Posts from 31 Days of God-giver:
Day 1- Reap What I Sow
Day2- Get To Know God  
Day3-  God is God. 
Day 4- Wrap Your Arms Around Him 
Day 5- Pray.  Don't Think, Just Do It. 
Day 6- Find Your Voice 
Day 7- I Am a Mountain Goat 
Day 8- I ♥ Being Fabulous 
Day 9- Grandmother's Hands


christina said...

love love love this stance on purity~! I used to teach a group of junior high girls and the stance was purity ... in all of life there are not enough people telling our daughters that it is worth the wait! ;)

Gina said...

Yes, yes and amen! I have never read that passage in the message but it so perfectly describes what so desperately needs to be said abouit sex in this generation. I often think that this needs to be talked about more, how God views sex and that it's really such a big deal in our lives. If society can crudely discuss sex all the time, we must be discussing it all the time with God's perspective-especially with our children!

Prowess and Pearls said...

Love your blog Denise!Love the line that says "before you get married satan will try to get you to have sex and after you get married, he'll try to get you to not have sex". Dropping by from the Community Link-In at Marigold Rd...following you now.

Angel said...

Yes! My husband and I spend time in premarital counseling with young couples discussing the importance of protecting intimacy in marriage. The passage in the Message describes it so well.

Meg {henninglove} said...

what a great letter!! as a married woman, it is so worth waiting for the right man and so worth following God's design for sex

Linda Z said...

Love that version as it's described in "The Message." So good. I love all your tips, too. I'm going to have Josh read them!! Patrick just did the full on "talk." Yikes!

You forgot one part of my quote... "Fight Satan, He's bad!!" :)