it's a tradition in our home to give blessings on birthdays.
the first blessing was on noah's first birthday, when after digging into his cake, his daddy and i {who by the way was very pregnant} blessed him before all our guests. there the tradition began, and EVERY birthday since then you will find us concluding the celebrations with our blessings.
our blessings usually include our delight for the individual; their character, growth in Christ, and recognizing obstacles they hurdled that year. it also includes speaking words of hope over their future.
words of affirmation {especially when spoken before others about you} nourish a life with truth. {i grew up malnutritioned in this area. my family will not :-) }.
words of hope spoken over a future sustained and directed many of our old testament leaders; abraham, jacob {israel}, esther, david {to name just a few}. the lack/withdrawal of a blessing destroyed individuals {for example esau, and the nation of edom}. as parents michael and i expect that the powerful words of hope and future we speak over our childrens' lives will sustain and lead them into God's will for them.
yesterday, after emiie's 12 birthday dinner was polished off, seated at the table together, noah {who typically seems the least interested in participating in any of our traditions} asked, "are we going to do the blessings?" michael responded, "why don't you go first." {giving blessings has grown from michael and i giving them to the children to all 5 of us giving them to each other}. honestly neither of us expected noah to be ready. getting him to talk usually involves some "pulling of teeth,"
but to our surprise noah said, "okay." looked at emilie, and began...
"emilie, you are the sweetest, kindest, most loving person i know.
you are outgoing and friendly. you walk up to people, befriend them, and talk with them. everybody likes you. everybody wants to be friends with you.
you are so pretty, so beautiful. when i say you are beautiful it's not just on the outside, it's on the inside too. that beauty on the inside shines out of you and makes you even more beautiful."
he said a lot more.
i was in joyful tears, overwhelmed by my 13yr old son, and "scarce could take it in!"
i was overwhelmed not only by the content of his words, but by the power and authority that noah spoke with. his words were intended to speak truth and hope into and over his sister {who at 12 is wrestling with self-doubt and insecurity}. noah's purpose was to BLESS his sister, who he adores. {yes, he adores his sister}. and he did!!!
to learn more about giving a blessing, read "the gift of the blessing" by john trent & gary smalley.
i read it in 1996 {before i was married or had children}. it helped me understand my own need for blessing, and how necessary it was to give the gift of the blessing to my {future} family.
here is a link to an insightful post about giving the gift of the blessing.
one more thing- i think it's important that you know we are a normal family. we have good moments and bad moments. like all kids, mine argue, fight for their own way, and boss each other. i blow up. we learn grace and begin again numerous times though out each day.
however, i am very intentional here in blogville to make sure that the words i speak about my children express high value of them. they read many of my posts. i know my words here {as well as in our day to day lives} have the power to uplift or hurt them, and i want all these word to bless them.
i wanted to lift any blog-fog and assure you my family is just as normal as yours {assuming your family IS normal}.
a song a high school friend lead me to because he saw me in the lyrics.
at 16 listening to that song i felt for the first time that i was known.
these are some of the lyrics to that song "emily" by michael w. smith “you’re going through that stage it’s a restless age young and insecure still there are doubts to fade moments to be made and one of them is yours
on the wire balancing your dreams hoping ends will meet their means you feel alone uninspired well does it help you to know that i believe in you you're an angel waiting for wings emily.”
emilie, today you are 12! as much as i would like to be in denial and keep you my little girl forever i can see that you have entered “that stage” {sooner that i expected, sweetie}. like all girls {yes, all} you have been bombarded, and are wrestling with feelings of doubt, insecurity, and feeling alone. i would like to be able to tell you these will subside, they won’t. BUT GOD. sweet emilie, this is where your faith is going to be put into action! your need for Jesus is going to increase, and you are going to experience tangibly what i have been praying over you for the past 12 years...
“I pray that out of His glorious riches
He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being,
so that Christ may dwell in your heart through faith.
And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love,
may have power together with all the saints
to GRASP
how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ,
and to KNOW this love that surpasses knowledge-
that you may be FILLED
to the measure of all the fullness of GOD."
Ephesians 3: 16-19
you are going to experience His immeasurable love. {“immeasurable” that is your word. remember.) God, is going to have opportunity after opportunity (because adolescence offers many} to lavish His love on you! My prayer for you is that you will learn to faithfully submit your heart, mind, soul, and strength to Him, and that you will DWELL RICHELY in His love.
i know you. you are tender to God's ways, generous with grace {thank you}, compassionate, and you seek Truth. i know that you are going to seek His face and find it! that is who you are.
i hope it helps you to know that i absolutely, 100%, BELEIVE in you, Emilie Erin Jones!!
(oh, i just want to go back and kiss and squeeze you at every stage!)
rings~ left hand wedding rings & ring with caleb's name engraved inside
right hand, 3 rings with noah, emilie & josie's names engraved inside.
{i'm supersentimentalsappy}
wiw to church
dress~ gap
belt- maurices
sandals~ old navy
wiw to celebrate the 4th of July
top~ hand me over from my sister
red petal pusher~ the pleated poppy
jeans~ kohls
shoes~ another hand me over from my lit'l sister
josie- in her new outfit from who else but my sister
{we'd be naked if it wasn't for her}.
does anyone bless your wardrobe with their "hand me overs?"
{"j" and i. our kids- our girls are now the same age we were when we met. crazy}
julie has lived on the other side of the world in virgina for 15yrs {blah}
{the other side of the world is a meany for stealing her}.
if i'm lucky i get to see julie once a year {double blah}.
this year i was lucky!
julie knows i am supersentimentalsappy.
so she wasn't at all surprised when i drove through our old stomping grounds
while blasting tunes from 1986. "i wanna be a cowboy and you can be my cowgirl... yippee yippee yi, yippee yi yo yo."
{we are from the "cowboy capitol of the world" so this song is totally appropriate}
here we are at the old Oakdale Jr. High School
we met in 1986 in Mrs. Rowland's Music/Drama class.
in 86' julie totally rocked the skater look
{her bangs were longer post pictures}
while i attempted to
soar into jr. high popularity with my feathers
{obviously i failed}.
next we headed over to good ol' Oakdale High School.
{we were attempting to get jumping pictures, but gravity wouldn't let us}
oh, the memories!
"there's fungus among us," homecomings, drama with mr. oksen, dance with ms. usher,
crushes on boys, spiral perms, guess jeans, keds, tanning lotions that turned us orange,
I'm Denise Jones~ Michael's wife, Noah, Emilie, and Josie's mommy.
Jesus knows me this I love.
Praise is who I am, praise is what I do.
I love words: written, spoken, sung, lived.
I have a love/hate relationship with homeschooling.
I value time spent with a good friend.
I go nowhere without my lipstick!
"By entering through faith into what God has always wanted to do for us- set us right with him, make us fit for him- we have it all together with God because of our Master Jesus. And that's not all; We throw open our doors to God and discover at the same moment that he has already thrown open his doors to us. We find ourselves standing where we always hoped we might stand- out in the wide open spaces of God's grace and glory, standing tall and shouting praise."
"Even in childhood was implanted within me a trace of that mysterious unity from which I was derived" St. Augustine Everybody has to change or they expire. Everybody has to leave, leave their home and come back so they can love it again for all new reasons. I want to keep my soul fertile for the changes, so things keep getting born in me, so things keep dying when it is time for things to die. I want to keep walking away from the person I was a moment ago. Only a good story has a character that's different at the end than it was in the beginning. Through Painted Deserts - Donald Miller
"Our whole life was only given to us to advance us by great strides toward our heavenly country." Lancelot Andrews
"So here's what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life - your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life - and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him."